She has probably been checking you out in the office or while doing your shopping in the grocery store. She is good looking with a great personality. You probably have been fantasizing of how great the sex will be — but here is the problem. The male species has over the centuries being associated with predatory instincts. For some men, married women are a no-go zone. The stigma, post-sex guilt and danger associated with sleeping with a married woman will keep most men from the pursuit.

For about a decade I mostly slept with married women. Even now, nearly 20 years since the last time I did so, when I think of these affairs my mouth goes dry with excitement. The affairs began when I was A married woman who was a friend of my family started to take a great deal of interest in me.

But the truth is that even the happiest marriages can be and often are rocked by cheating. There are many reasons men and women cheat. Loneliness plays a role, as does boredom and alcohol. Maybe a close relationship with a colleague goes too far during a long night at the office.

On a recent evening, I was having drinks with a male friend — a single and actively-looking-for-a-long-term-relationship friend — when he asked me why there seemed to be so many married women on Tinder. Did they just want to flirt? My husband and I met at a party on a quiet street in a college town.