Sometimes, giving something a name helps us shine a spotlight on it. The term "stealthing" — where someone secretly removes the condom they're wearing during sex — isn't widely used, but you probably know someone who's experienced it: an Australian study found that 18 percent of women and 4 percent of men had been victims, with only 1 percent of that sample reporting it to the police. While not technically illegal in the vast majority of the world, it is a form of sexual assault — the perpetrator is forcing something on the victim that they didn't consent to — and courts have convicted "stealthers" in Switzerland , Germany and the UK , while Wikileaks founder Julian Assange was famously accused of committing the crime in Sweden the case was dropped in late The consequences of stealthing can be physical — like STDs or unwanted pregnancy — but also psychological, with many reporting feelings of shame and guilt. I spoke to six people affected by stealthing — with some saying it took giving the act a name for them to properly recognise what had happened. When I was 20, I had sex with a guy I knew from my hometown.
Non-consensual condom removal
Condoms and consent: Why do so many men I date think it’s OK to take them off and keep going?
When we were having sex, my boyfriend pulled out and the condom stuck inside of me. Is this dangerous? The condom itself isn't likely to be dangerous — though you'll need to get it out so it doesn't cause problems. But when a condom slips off, you are at higher risk for STDs and unplanned pregnancy.
What If the Condom Slipped Off During Sex?
Non-consensual condom removal , or " stealthing ", is the practice of a man covertly removing or damaging a condom during sexual intercourse , when his sex partner has only consented to condom-protected sex. In an article about stealthing published in the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law ,     Alexandra Brodsky described victims' experiences, legal implications, and legal avenues to address stealthing. Brodsky described how the practice of stealthing is discussed, described, and advocated for on various websites and forums.
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